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Friday, September 10, 2010

Mass Enforcement

I once watched an intriguing documentary about life in China sometime during the end of the Cold War. Among other subjects showcased, one was how enforcement of the "one child policy" was being carried out.


One Chinese couple had dared defy the government's edict and the wife was carrying their second child. The couple was not hauled off to jail, their home was not confiscated. Instead, all their relatives and other people from their community came over numerous times to lecture these expectant parents mercilessly. I thought about how very hard it would have been to undergo such treatment and not cave in (compliance), especially in a culture in which honor and respect are so very important.


After reading a number of accounts of the defectors from Communism, it seems that this method is actually a preferred one. If someone starts thinking "free" thoughts, use the group to pummel them emotionally until they can't stand the strain and have to give in.


Sometimes I feel too wierd for words.


The decisions we have made, which have profoundly affected the way we live, were not capricious.


First, when we became Christians, it was with our whole hearts. We didn't have all the answers, but we knew we tired of, and most sincerely didn't want our own way, and so we earnestly sought His.


Sometimes it was a lovely thing, sometimes it was like the mess a tiny child makes when first trying to feed himself.


But after many years of studying, seeking, and listening, we began to know without a doubt that God wanted us to take "the road less traveled" in most areas of our lives.


The blessings of such decisions have been multitudinous; we have enjoyed sweet fellowship with God and each other that would not have been possible otherwise. We have seen the hand of God move many times. We have been given glimpses into God's eternal purposes as they are imperfectly played out here on earth.


But sometimes we experience the feelings of that poor couple in China. Relatives, friends, church members, the media, the whole culture tries to keep us living in constant tension. We aren't being hauled off to jail, and our home is not directly threatened, but we still experience the continued onslaught.


I did a really dumb thing the other night.


Since our internet has been restored, I took a little bit of time trying to look up some relatives and old chums on Facebook. The world was rolling on for all of them, the roaring of time could be heard as they were all riding the waves of popularity--all the "friends" and "friends of friends" and pictures of themselves, and sharing every time they stubbed their toes or to yip, yip over getting to work on time--it sort of made me wonder how anyone could have time for actual living while paying attention to all this trivia. It was like the sictom Seinfeld in real life--much ado about nothing.


Then I wondered if our whole American society wasn't being run like high school. We have the "popular" folks, and cheerleaders, and the "pep squad" and the "glee club" and it is all about "school spirit" and little trifles about how we are doing all the "popular" things (without considering why we are doing them, and, more importantly, to what ultimate end).


It's all about "getting along" and being "nice", but not holiness, or self-discipline or anything that could resemble serious, consequential inward reflection.


We are all being led down the deep abyss, but doing cheers and clapping loudly (for what--we are not really sure) all the while inescapably sinking deeper into the darkness.


So I am standing in the sun on the ledge, and here beside me are many others--Fenilon, Tozer, ten Boom, Madame Guyon, Francis Shaefer and many like you who have refused to race headlong into destruction.


We were all made for relationship. We were all meant for sweet, intimate communion; for laughing together and crying together and just living together, but with the underlying knowledge that life is grave, that what we think on will determine what we, in due course, will become, "bad company corrupting good morals".


To walk closely to Christ, to be a "friend of God" is more important than gaining a million friends on facebook or anywhere else for that matter.


My dear, dear son is seriously committed to Jesus. His life is from God, in no uncertain terms. When he was a young man and at home, he began to feel a need for having a friend or two, but he would not compromise his walk with God just to have any old relationship. While being kind and generous to all, he was looking for some honest companionship based upon mutual agreement.


Because He trusted, God blessed him with two other young men who were also committed Christians, and even into their adult lives they are great friends who encourage each other and spur each other on to faith and godliness.


Sometimes when I do a little looking on the Internet I get strengthened. I can find the fellowship there I am missing in my current surroundings. Instead of focussing on how silly I might look to others, I realize how very privileged I truly am.


It is just this; I am not going back, and I am not giving up, and through it all--I am blessed beyond blessing with the sweet comforts of the Holy Spirit--how precious to be held in His arms at times when my heart is to faint to walk on any farther.

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  1. I have found fellowship and encouragement on the internet. We don't have any other homeschool or large families in our church. I've been praying that the Lord would send someone. Until He does, I wait. I have many friends, but none of them walking the path I am. My mother doesn't understand about the committment required for homeschooling. My husband doesn't really get it either. It's lonely at times, but I know this is what I'm meant to do. I love it and wouldn't go back to the career for anything. Not until my children are grown, anyway.

    I'm on facebook and I've enjoyed catching up on everyone's life. I, too, noticed that not much has changed since high school for many of my "friends". I posted some blog links and have become closer to some and inadvertantly offended others. Oh, well. God gives us what we need. I'll have as many friends as He sends me and I'm so grateful for the wonderful women I've met through blogging.

    Celee

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  2. Thank you for this posting... captured my thoughts exactly. My husband and I sometimes feel that we are the only ones trying to walk this narrow path of committing everything to the Lord. Although we are surrounded by loving friends at our church and by other Christian homeschooling families, we still feel like the "odd" ones many times. We hold fast to each other and to God and persevere each day. It is sometimes difficult, but it is always GOOD and BLESSED. What a wonderful thing it would be to have other families walking alongside us so that we could share trials and give each other encouragement.

    I read your blog regularly and you are an encouragement to me as your words often mirror my thoughts. Thanks for the effort you put into it.

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  3. I found your blog through a blog through a blog etc. :) just this week AND just this last weekend deleted my facebook account. I spent quite a bit of time last night while my kids were asleep and my husband was working reading your blog! It has already inspired me and I'm thankful to have found it.

    When I finally decided and followed through with deleting my facebook account I told my husband I felt like I had lost 10 pounds. I kept the e mails of those who I believed I had formed a friendship with outside of facebook and can easily continue a friendship through e mail.

    I had to make it clear to everyone that I was not doing this to offend anyone. I have 4 little boys, am homeschooling and doing my best to be the best servant to God, wife and mother for my family and felt I had to "hunker down" or rather simplify some things in my life. Getting off facebook was one of them :)

    The internet has been a HUGE blessing in so many ways, however just like all things when not moderated can be harmful. We are only human.

    Mmmmm..maybe I should have done a post! Anyway, thus far I have enjoyed reading enjoy your blog and plan on following it. God Bless your family

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  4. Just a quick Hello & Thank you ~ Like Sandra, I just found your blog (somehow) this week, and what I've read has been a blessing of the challenging sort. I also wrestle with the FB ~ should I deactivate? or just control my time spent? I learn things of value about people I know, but also things I'd rather not know...
    Okay, I said 'quick' ~ so I'll leave off my rambling thoughts!
    In Christ,
    Melanie

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  5. This is an excellent post on so many levels. Glad I found you.

    Blessings!

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  6. I Sherry. About the watercolor paper: Do you have a Hobby Lobby? I wait and use my 50% off coupon though (from online). The one at this link is $7, but even if it is a better brand for $20 and you use the half off coupon it can work. Here is an example of the type to look for:
    http://shop.hobbylobby.com/products/400-series-watercolor-pad-134312/

    Just MAKE SURE it is 140 pound paper or higher!

    I cut the paper into small 3 X4 blocks for the kids. Now, when I paint a portrait or something, I use something better. (Usually I use the backs of my mom's old paintings that she doesn't want, because she uses Arches, which in her opinion is the best.) Hope this helps.

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  7. I can identify with every word! Beautifully said.

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  8. I dont have a face book but our church does, I have seen the destruction that it can cause and how people (who are Christians) can use it in ugly ways. I have chosen not to be a part of it but know that for some it has been a blessing.

    I agree with your posting. I am at a point in my life where I am questioning the authenticiy of some of my friendships. I have decided to pull back, and concentrate on the family that the Lord has given me and less on what people think, socializing, and allowing myself to get dragged down by those who feel they need to know every dot and tiddle of your life.

    I could go on and on but I wont. I just caution parents with teens to really monitor facebook. My children do not have it but I do have one adult child that does. It has been both negative and positive for him and at times he has had to delete it.

    blessings,
    A

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  9. Great post. I totally agreed with what you wrote about getting in touch with old friends and feeling so incredibly out of place. It really is like high school. We have not grown up! I have made so many mistakes, but I'd like to think I'm growing-- and my children are such a huge part in that. The trivial garbage just disgusts me. I'm 28 and I see women 10 and 20 years older still comparing and competing and racing around doing mundane, stupid things and it makes me so discouraged. Really, they don't know better by then? Thanks so much for your encouragement.

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  10. Then I wondered if our whole American society wasn't being run like high school.


    --I have surely had the same thoughts in the past year or so! Everything is about how much fun you can have, how many social events and get-togethers you can go to, how many people you can *connect* with ( whether you should be connecting with them or not :) Sadly, it has really infiltrated church and the homeschooling scene. How many homeschool events I have gone to where the mothers seem to simply go so they can sit around and chit chat while their children are off doing who knows what? I'm all for time off and visiting, but this seems to be the new norm. :)

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  11. I should have finished my thought by saying you are really thought of as reclusive or snobbish if you just happen to like to go on a field trip to spend time with your children! :)

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  12. great post, really very very true!
    thank you so much!
    Débora

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  13. too weird for words. That's me. I have asked my husband more than once why I can't just be normal. Well, at least he likes me the way I am.

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  14. When we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with each other....and the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all sin...(1 John 1, 7)...it is comforting and very simple. If I am having fellowhip with other believers, then I am walking in the light. Even Facebook can be a good tool when used in the right way. I love to keep in touch with my friends who also love Jesus and the way He made. I HAVE noticed though, that as you say, the "friends" I had from high school are occupied with such frivolities....I also remember watching a documentary about the One-Child rule. We are so blessed to live in such a country where it is still possible to welcome these many blessings from God!!! Thanks for sharing, your posts are always so though-provoking....

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  15. I read a biography about Tozer by James Snyder- In Pursuit of God and have his sermon-The Menace of the Religious Movie(Christian Light Publications). I liked Corrie Ten Boom's movie, The Hiding Place(WWII) better than the book. I read a biography of Francis and Edith Schaeffer and read their books(their son is interesting). I have tried to read Madame Guyon. Don't know who Fenilin(sp?) is. My mother managed a school bus company and my sister is a social worker-both are hostile to our homeschooling.

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  16. Thank you so much for your blog. It has been very encouraging to me.

    Praying with you and for you,
    Kim

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  17. hhmmm....sort of a depressed view point. I agree that facebook can be, is often, really dumb. However, I use it to share pics instantly with my relatives who all live far away....and in that context it is not dumb. My mom and I keep in touch through facebook also. It is fast, and we can share pictures back and forth. She especially enjoys the pictures of the grandchildren. I have also reconnected with several friends from childhood, and that was fun! :D I've also been able to hear about old friends getting married, having babies, and other such things through facebook. It takes 5 minutes of my time to breeze through it at the end of my day....it takes the same about of time to check this blog.

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  18. Thank you for this beautiful and brilliant post!
    It is just what I needed right now.
    Blessings to you!

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  19. Thank you so much for this post! It blessed me on so many levels. I shared with my husband that FINALLY I've found someone who understands. Thank you so much.

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  20. As you shared that you feel weird, I began to cry. BOY can many of us understand! The internet is funny~for a long time it was my only connection to other weirdos like myself~LOL! And then there have honestly been times where I allowed it to suck me away.

    Anyway, thank you for sharing yet another wonderful sentiment! (((((HUGS))))) sandi

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  21. To weird for words is exactly how I feel! My husband and I came to our current parish this past November and I feel like I've landed on an alien planet. I'm the only stay-at-home mom and certainly the only one homeschooling! I'm very thankful for the community I've found online through blogs because otherwise I feel very much alone.

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  22. And YOU are part of that encouragement in my life, even though we have never met! FB is so discouraging to me, I have thought about leaving for good, but I try to use it to post scripture or challenging quotes. Maybe someone's heart will be changed for good.

    KT

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  23. Yep, we're freaks too.

    Love your blog!

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  24. I happened across your blog this evening and am so glad! After a day of spending time with extended family and feeling like such a wierdo (with our massive family of 3 little ones!), it was such a blessing to read this blogpost.

    This afternoon I pondered, why is it that most of the Pro-Lifers I know are anti-abortion, but show disgust when they get the news of anyone having more than 1 or 2 children? Why is it that most Christians I know show contempt towards those who aspire to live a Christian lifestyle, calling it legalism when one is walking out their obedience to the Lord and His Word?

    So tired of the wishy-washiness and of feeling like a weirdo for wanting to please the Lord with my life... Yet, the Lord is faithful to remind me of men like Daniel. Sometimes, we'll have to stand alone, but He is with us.

    Thank you for your encouraging post. It was some needed 'sharpening iron' for me tonight. Blessings!

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